Grade Up

Yay! The first grade in current airline has been completed. Thanks to involvement in key activities and assignment for important role, that was a fun year full of learnings and earnings though at first it would be a laid-back one. Within one year, I’ve grasped a lot and I’ve grown so much in many aspects despite sometimes I felt misplaced or even underutilized.

In less than a year or two, anyway, the final grade is about to come. Being in comfort zone and doing repetitive jobs is enjoyable—it really is, nevertheless I want to comprehend things from other, or even broader perspective. I’m certain that my experience would’ve been enriched in the upcoming grade, but whether it’s a final grade or not, it depends on the opportunities to develop myself further and to explore my latent talents deeper. I don’t want to stay stagnant. I don’t want.

Some people dare themselves to take accelerated moves, so they could graduate earlier and move on with their lives. People finishing in advance signify either they’re really outstanding, or they want to grow outside because they’re hardly growing inside. Well, option to accelerate will be chosen only if things remain sluggish and such circumstance is prone to make myself decelerate.

Everybody renounces in time; and so do I. Because we deserve to be in a place where we can show the best capabilities of ourselves.

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How Does a Moment Last Forever?

How does a moment last forever?
How can a story never die?
It is love we must hold onto
Never easy, but we try

Sometimes our happiness is captured
Somehow, our time and place stand still
Love lives on inside our hearts and always will

Minutes turn to hours, days to years, and gone
But when all else has been forgotten
Still our song lives on

Maybe some moments weren’t so perfect
Maybe some memories not so sweet
But we have to know some bad times
Or our lives are incomplete

Then when the shadows overtake us
Just when we feel all hope is gone
We’ll hear our song and know once more
Our love lives on

How does a moment last forever?
How does our happiness endure?
Through the darkest of our troubles
Love is beauty, love is pure

Love pays no mind to desolation
It flows like a river through the soul
Protects, persists, and perseveres
And makes us whole

Minutes turn to hours, days to years, then gone
But when all else has been forgotten
Still our song lives on

How does a moment last forever?
When our song lives on


Composed by Tim Rice and Alan Menken; recorded by Céline Dion (2017).

10 Reasons Why We Lose Friends

One of the worst parts about growing up, apart from being absolutely on your own, is that you lose friends, all of them, one by one. No matter how thick you may be with them, the moment you step into adult life, all of them disappear. This is probably why.

  1. Priorities change. As you grow up, you tend to spend more and more time at work. You no longer have time to meet friends, friends who once meant the world to you. It’s only later in life that you realize life is incomplete without them, but it’s already too late.
  2. We often forget that friendships can’t always be effortless. Making friends is easy, but keeping them is the hard part. Hanging out with them in college seemed easy because it was convenient. But as life moves on, we give up on friendships, we give up too easy. The friendship fades away and we accept it, instead of fighting it, because that’s so much more convenient.
  3. Sometimes, it’s love that ruins friendships. When one of the two friends enters into a relationship, friendships are often forgotten. They may realize it later but things are never the same. We’ve all been there and done that too.
  4. Our 20s are a tough time. We’re all trying to prove something to ourselves and the world. Some people get lucky; some have to struggle a lot more. When the two people who started from the same point find themselves at crossroads, insecurity creeps in. You’re happy that they’re more successful, except that you’re really not. You soon start drifting away because their presence in your life only makes you feel more miserable. Sometimes, it’s your own insecurity and other times, the circumstance is a bitch.
  5. The support and confidence our families cannot give us, we seek in our friendships. Our friends know us the best, don’t they? But a lot times, even your friends don’t support your life decisions. And that’s the reason why it becomes hard to be around them when their judgments become too sour and unforgiving. There’s nothing worse than a friend who bails out on you.
  6. With some friends, you feel like you’re the only one making all the efforts. So, you let it go, because you don’t want to be “the clingy friend”, forgetting no relationship in this world is equal, that one person will always have to put in more efforts than the other. And nobody wants to be that person. We’d rather lose them than be the more involved one. Damn our egos!
  7. Some friends are great to have, but they’re also toxic. There comes a point in life where you finally realize what a bad influence they are on you; and you decide you’re better off without them.
  8. It becomes difficult for a lot of people to cope with the fact that their friends have made new friends. Being replaced is a terrible feeling, but it happens and it happens to the best of us. The more possessive we become, the more bitter it gets.
  9. Sometimes, you just grow apart. The things you bonded over once don’t exist in your life anymore. You’re a changed person and so are they. Sometimes, you meet a friend after a long while and realize they haven’t grown up even one bit. The conversation becomes painfully forced and that’s the moment you know, the friendship’s kinda over.
  10. It’s funny how we just cut off from our dearest friends and years later, when we’re going through old pictures on Facebook, we sit there wondering what really went wrong. It was probably a small argument. You brushed it under the carpet, they never talked about it too and slowly, the friendship died a slow death. Our non confrontational attitude, our habit of not talking about conflicts when it’s important, sometimes, costs us our best of friends.

Completely correct. Completely relatable.

Originally published by Ankush Bahuguna on MensXP.com, 8 April 2016.

Perceiving Time, Surviving Time

Talking about time is talking about a uniquely single variable that prompts different feeling to everyone. Though everyone is going through exactly the same measurement unit of time, everyone has different perception towards it. To different people, an interval of three years seem either long or short depends on their circumstances, how they fill up their time, and how they absorb or waste opportunities within three years.

To many high school students, three years seem quite a long period of joyful adolescence despite obligation to be at school from early morning to late afternoon in weekdays. There might be no heavy thoughts besides enjoying teenage years, but soon or later they will realize that actually high school years passed very shortly and three years seemed not enough. If there is a chance to turn back the time, many of them would gladly live through those happy three years once again.

To those battling with cancer, three years might seem like three decades. Chemotherapies and other supporting treatments are painful enough to remind that life is pretty hard to get through—while sometimes there comes up a feeling that life treats them unfairly. But life is a series of never-ending survival, and as a matter of fact, three years indicate that they have survived a lengthy span of time. Even some of them might have recuperated; and perhaps realize that three years have gone longer than they expected.

To people migrating abroad for work or postdoctorate study, three years seem very lingering at the beginning. Adjustment to new environment, adaptation to people with various cultural backdrops, even loneliness and homesickness are just few examples that make the early stage seems hard to survive. But gradually as they focus on the primary reason why they move overseas, the stumbling blocks slowly dematerializes. And having gone through those long-struggling years, eventually there will come a more favorable situation comparing to three prior years.

To parents raising kids, three years seem to happen like a speed of light. Things change as they are busy earning living and also nurturing their kids. An infant turns into a toddler, a toddler turns into a child, a child turns into a teenager, then a teenager turns into an adult. While time seems to spin very quickly, years passed by and transformed both the kids and the parents. The kids have grown up a lot; the parents have grown quite old in three years.

Things might happen unexpectedly within three years, so be well-prepared for any good as well as unfavorable scenarios. Golden opportunities might happen, but so does catastrophes. Rapid development might happen, but so does the outbreak of riot—or even war. What matters is how you respond to anything happen within such period; how you act positively or negatively towards any possible issue. Instead of letting life controls yourself, let your actions determine your life.

If it has been, or it’s going to be an up-and-down period of three years; just live your life as if it’s your high school years. The first year is a phase of self-actualization and self-acceptance, the second year is a phase of discovering potentials and living life to the fullest, meanwhile the third year is an ultimate stage when you have to prepare for life after school years—but you keep having fun during your final year. Just make the most of your three years regardless any emerging difficulties. You’ll survive anyway.

What if in few years I decide to work at the Ministry of Foreign Affairs or the Ministry of Finance?


Out of the blue, that random thought popped up in my mind after Fajr. Maybe that was a kind of revelation; and maybe my life needs a plot twist.

Countdown

Count the days down whenever you feel lonely. Life might have been going hard on your own, but you’ll see your loved ones, as well as closest people, again as soon as the days pass by.

Count the days down whenever you feel low. You’ll understand that hard times won’t last forever; and you’ll be surprised that you can regain strength and passion to get through it.

Count the days down whenever you feel stressed and distressed. You’ll understand that brighter times await, shortly after you complete life challenges you’ve been destined to.

Count the days down whenever you feel things are boring. In immediate time, you’ll return to your comfort zone and things are getting interesting again.

Count the days down whenever you feel like giving up. You’ll figure out that unfavorable time, that you’ve been undergoing, is slowly diminishing as the time spins around.

Count the days down whenever you feel homesick. Sooner than expected, you’ll going back to your hometown; and of course your home, or the place where your heart belongs to.

Count the days down. Trust me whatever the situation is, it always helps relieving temporary despondency.

Count the days down; and things ain’t gonna be as hard as it used be. Count the days down; and you’ll be surprised how it eases your burdens.

Count the days down. Just wait patiently. It’s just less than a week left.